Add nodeSelector, affinity, and tolerations support to controller StatefulSet

[dominicroessner]

Resolves #364

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All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests ✅

Project coverage is 73.11%. Comparing base (e60af6b) to head (10f0bbd).
Report is 5 commits behind head on main.

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[komer3]

Thanks for making the changes!

LGTM. I'll approve and merge it once the CI finishes running