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<h1>读《分寸感:学会高质量社交》</h1> | ||
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/ 2025-01-16 </p> | ||
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<p>实话讲这本书很水。有几点比较触动我。</p> | ||
<p>自我价值感高的人不会为了讨好别人、取悦别人而牺牲自己的利益。这很有道理。为什么讨好型人格或者老好人害怕拒绝、害怕冲突?因为拒绝和冲突意味着很有可能别人不再喜欢你。而自我价值感低的人需要通过「有朋友喜欢」来证明自己的价值,所以不敢拒绝、害怕冲突。</p> | ||
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<p>你的自我价值感应建立在对自我的清晰认知上,而非依靠表扬。</p> | ||
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<p>这句话太对了。自我价值感不是说把自己吹上天,给自己洗脑说自己很强,而是不断认识自己,知道自己在这个世界上的位置,了解自己的优点和缺点,明确自己的人生目标和使命,这样,价值感也就确立了,不会因为别人的评价而有大的动摇,也就没那么在乎别人的评价。</p> | ||
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<p>不要随便给自己的性格贴上标签。</p> | ||
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<p>这一点我很同意。人是多面的。我觉得用性格(内向、外向)或者 mbit 来描述人,本质上是一种「降维 (Dimensionality Reduction)」方法,比如 pca。这种做法的好处是维度少了,但是却缺少了很多细节。</p> | ||
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