module: initialize hook returns load, resolve

This commit allows the `initialize()` hook to optionally return an
object having the `resolve()` and `load()` hooks as properties.
This allows state passed into `initialize()` to be shared with the
`resolve()` and `load()` hooks either via closure or class
instance.

In addition to developer ergonomics, supporting this model will
make it easier to write tests against a loader module. The
existing design forces state to be shared at the module level
which puts the burden of invalidating the ESM module cache
on anyone hoping to write isolated tests against a loader
module.

Fixes: nodejs#50042