_ci_ Refactor release pipeline to better support m1 builds

[ianconsolata]

If possible, I would like to merge this in before the 1.18.0 release, otherwise I will have to manually build and update the binaries for that release myself. I know it's kinda big and last minute though, so I understand if you want to wait until 1.18.1-rc1 to put this in action.

Related Issues

Right now, our m1 builds are broken, and don't generate working universal binaries during releases. On pre-releases, they aren't built at all.

Proposed Changes

This does a few things:

• Uses a custom m1 mac runner running in aws to build darwin-arm64 binaries
• Prebuilds binaries for darwin-arm64, darwin-amd64, and linux-amd64 in three separate build jobs
• Pull those binaries together in a release job which makes a release using goreleaser, pubishing that to the Github Release
• It will now successfully publish the binaries on all releases, including pre-releases (i.e. *-rc) , but will only publish to homebrew on final releases.
• removes the build-ntwk-calibration and build-ntwk-butterfly jobs, as no one is using / relying on those anymore. In a future PR I will be tweaking our docker publishing flow to include docker builds for those networks.
• Removed a bunch of seemingly unnecessary cruft in our build process (like caching the cargo dependencies on jobs that we don't use rust)

Testing

This was extensively tested on my test branch, but given the nature of the release process it can't be fully tested until it's run in a release environment. Please let me know when the next release is that will ship these changes, and I will make sure I am on call to fix any issues during the release.

Checklist

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