[feature request] Add pod specified-delete for advanced statefulset

[wkai886]

What would you like to be added:

advanced statefulset 添加类似 cloneset 的 在pod 上添加label apps.kruise.io/specified-delete: true 去实现指定pod的重建，并且pod名字不变， 或者 基于 advanced statefulset 的 序号保留扩展下，可以实现重名pod的重建。

Why is this needed:

需要实现 advanced statefulset 的指定 pod重建的时候 能触发 preDelete 的 生命周期hook， 目前通过 序号保留将 某个序号的pod的删除的时候 可以触发 preDelete 的生命周期hook，但是不能覆盖住 同名pod 重建的场景。
如果可以支持 在pod 上添加label apps.kruise.io/specified-delete: true 是最好的，能和cloneset 的 重建逻辑保持一致。

[FillZpp]

/retitle [feature request] Add pod specified-delete for advanced statefulset

[FillZpp]

/assign @veophi

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[YTGhost]

@FillZpp Maybe I can try to take over this job, can you assign this job to me? It would be nice to have some notes or help.

[zmberg]

/assign @YTGhost